He has no reason to believe his life is going to change. Today his life is the same as yesterday and the day before that. Sure some days are a little different than others but generally life is the same. Same bed, same care givers (and multitudes of strangers in and out) same food, same sounds, same smells, same friends, same toys, same, same, same.
We have spent the past 27 months preparing for this. We have dreamed, we have planned, we have purchased, we have decorated, we have thought, we have smiled, we have cried, we have questioned our sanity, we have worried and we have had time to process our thoughts.
But he has not. He has just lived life as it came. He will have no choice and he has no idea what is coming and how his life will change.
Tracey recently wrote this in a note to friends and colleagues
“While we are insanely happy to have reached this point we are not naïve to think it will likely be a happy time for him. He will be losing all the important people in his life to date. He will lose the culture of an orphanage and be dropping into what we all understand to be ‘home’. He will be traumatized again. He will feel intense fear and grief. Add the challenge of his age and inability to verbalize those feelings and we are already aching over the pain we know he is going to experience.”
How do you tell a 2 ½ year old that? How do you prepare him for this? You can’t.
Adoption is stressful, adoption is painful, and adoption is not natural.
We are thankful God has brought Leyson into our family and we are thrilled that tomorrow after many, many months of filing papers, waiting and short visits with him he is finally coming home but the coming months are not going to be easy.
We know that…
..he will be frightened
..he will act out
..he will fight the natural order of parents being the ones in control
We also know that…
..kids are resilient
..with hard work bonds can grow
..we are prepared as we can be (and a bit scared)
..he will have a dotting big brother looking out for him (and a sister, brother and brother- in-law who can’t wait to spend time with him)
..many people are praying for us and with us
And we trust God that…
..there is a reason He prompted Tracey to stop in for a visit at GLA more than 2 years ago so she could meet this little guy and so begin the process of his adoption
..God loves Leyson, has watched over and blessed him in his life so far and that will not change during this transition and in his future
..He has a plan for our family with Leyson as part of it and we look forward with anticipation for what that will look like and what He will do